Read the pair report

Bring the report into a conversation. There is no need to turn the first difference into a verdict about you both.

Start with your types and compare each dimension. Use differences as questions to explore, rather than a verdict about your relationship.

Where should you start?

Start with each person’s type and Dom and Sub values. Then compare the dimensions one at a time. When a difference stands out, ask which situation your partner had in mind.

Pick the one thing you most want to discuss. Explain your expectation, then hear theirs. An entire report makes a poor interrogation list.

What can you ask about a difference?

Try “How would you want us to decide this?” Add your own preference. That gives both of you something specific to respond to.

If your expectations differ, define the scope. What do you want to keep discussing? What is outside your limits for now? Until you both agree, the arrangement stays undecided.

What can your partner see?

The pair report shows your respective Dom and Sub values, each dimension side by side, and correct guesses about each other. The system does not show your individual answers. You decide whether to share your own result.

The pair report unlocks after you both finish. You can see your own result as soon as you finish. Waiting for your partner does not hold that back.

Can the report decide for you?

The report cannot predict relationship success. Types and dimensions cannot give consent for anyone. Every arrangement needs informed consent from both people. Either person can stop at any time.

Each choose one question to ask after reading. Add one boundary you want your partner to remember. Getting one thing clear is more useful than rushing to a verdict.